About this blog

My name is James.  I mentor ladies who request my help.  I have helped women stop smoking, improve their driving, lose weight, perform better at work, curb their language and control their outbursts.  I do this through behavior modification; a simple concept: do the right thing and you'll be rewarded; do the wrong thing and you'll be punished.
All of the issues I address are issues identified by the women I help.  I do not impose my own judgement on them.  I think the healthiest thing you can do for yourself is to stop smoking but I am not going to punish a woman for smoking unless SHE wants to quit.  I am not a master she is not a slave; I am not a top nor she a bottom;  I am not a Dom and she is not a sub.  We are two mature, intelligent adults who have entered into an agreement - she has agreed to engage in or refrain some certain behavior and I have agreed to discipline her if she violates that agreement.  We have also agreed upon what forms of punishment are acceptable and which will not be employed.
Some discipline will takes place in person; most at a distance.  Punishments other than corporal discipline may be employed.  These will consist of types of punishment familiar to us from growing up but alien to us as adults.  Being grounded, writing punishment lines, standing n the corner.   Others are more creative: exercise as punishment, what to wear or not wear, letters of apology written and mailed.  The transgressions and consequences are tailored to each individual - what behavior is she trying to change?  What punishment will she wish to avoid enough to forgo the forbidden behavior.  I can't impose punishment without her consultation.  I don't know what will deter her - only she does.
As I fill this space I will discuss punishments administered - fantasies fulfilled.  Some of these vignettes will be true, some will be created, some will be a distillation of what happened and what should have happened.  I hope you enjoy reading them, I hope you share your comments, relate similar situations, tell me what you would have done, what you wish someone else had done for you.
I hope you enjoy it - please participate.